Not your dark fantasy and never will be

Brace yourself for a rant since I’m way beyond angry and tired of this now. I feel way too old to handle this all over again and it breaks my heart that I STILL hear these things after all these years. 

It’s about the exotification of girls and women of colour.

I’ve ranted about this before but we take it once more.

I’m a person. A human. A woman. 

I’m just like any other girl and women. I do not take it as a compliment when you tell me how much you like girls that are different.

Wild. 

Not like your ordinary girl. How much you like women of colour in bed. Girls like me.

I’m a person. A human. A woman.

And I’m: 

• Not your wild jungle girl
• Not your Asian doll
• Not your black magic
• Not your exotic bucket list item
• Not your Indian fantasy ( I'm not even from India.)
• Not your dark fetish
• Not your ”you are sexy for being dark” girl.

I’m so tired of hearing these things over and over again and I swear to any gods out there, I will rain fire and blood over these exotifications and everyone that use them because I’m so tired of this. 

I should not have to crosscheck a list every time I date someone to find out if I’m their bucket list-item or an exotic fantasy. 

I should not have to listen to your racism about how you prefer blond girls but then always wanted to have a wild adventure with an Indian girl (again, NOT INDIAN!) and be expected to take it as a compliment. 

Cause it’s not.

And no, nothing has happened today that has triggered this. 

I’m just tired of seeing and hearing this. Just tired of being treated as anything else than a human.

Exotification of me and my fellow sisters of colours are racism, nothing else. It puts us in a place where we are not human and not valued for us being persons.

So just stop it.

Photo by the amazing Iduna.